Crow Circle 009 - We Were Built to Belong (Preview)
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1. REMINDER — We Were Built to Belong
We weren’t made to do this alone.
Humans are the only species born so underdeveloped we can’t survive without others. It takes years — sometimes decades —to fully function. And even then, we still need each other.
That’s not weakness. That’s design.
I used to swing between extremes — idolizing people or isolating from them.
But after a few ego deaths, I finally saw it:
Adults are just kids that don’t know sh*t.
— Logic
We carry childhood wounds into adult bodies. What looks like strength is often a survival strategy in disguise.
Hyper-independence is one of them.
“I don’t need anyone” sounds tough —but it’s just fear wearing armor.
Even Jesus didn’t go solo.
He walked with others. Taught in community. Built the Church as a body — not a brand.
“If one part suffers, every part suffers with it; if one part is honored, every part rejoices with it.”
— 1 Corinthians 12:26
And science agrees.
The longest-living people — the Blue Zones —don’t just eat plants.
They belong. They know their purpose. They have people.
So yes, some folks aren’t the right fit.
That’s real.
But your need for connection doesn’t make you weak. It makes you human.
Stay grounded.
Stay interdependent.
Keep the community.
2. RHYTHM – Dogs Are Man’s Best Friend
Let’s talk interdependence — not in theory, but in fur.
There’s a reason they say dogs are man’s best friend.
For me, that’s Kona.
God. Fitness. Kona.
That’s my survival stack.
I got him during the hardest season of my life — right as I was selling my first business. Everything felt uncertain. The pressure, the loneliness, the identity crisis… all of it hit hard. But I wasn’t going to give up on him just because life got messy.
I used to leave my car running during client meetings just to make sure he stayed safe.
Took him with me everywhere.
He was never a burden — he was an anchor. My reminder that loyalty goes both ways.
Then came the next storm:
I moved to Mexico. Tried to bootstrap a logistics company from scratch, pitching to some of the biggest pharma giants in the world. It was a full year of rejection, financial collapse, and more than once… suicidal thoughts.
But Kona was there.
We ran together. Ate together.
He didn’t judge. He didn’t flinch. He just stayed.
“The righteous care for the needs of their animals.”
— Proverbs 12:10
Your 20s can be brutal. Especially when you’re swinging for the fences.
And sometimes, what saves you isn’t a mentor, a podcast, or a bank account.
It’s a dog.
It’s a friend.
It’s love that never lets go.
So here’s the rhythm:
Go adopt a furry family member.
Walk together. Heal together. Be present together.
Man’s best friend might just be the one that keeps you going when nothing else does.
Dr. K at our Mexican Villa
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3. RITUAL — Go Buy a Goldfish and Name It… Bobby Holiday
Maybe you can’t afford a dog right now.
Maybe rent is brutal. Your job sucks. Your savings are a punchline.
And honestly? A dog might push you over the financial edge.
So here’s the move:
Go get a goldfish.
Name it Bobby Holiday.
Why?
Because even if you can’t have a dog — you can still care for something.
And sometimes, that’s enough to keep moving forward.
Put the tank next to your desk.
Start a livestream.
Make it your sidekick for the #20sGettingHitInTheGut era.
Feeding Bobby each morning is a ritual.
A reminder that you’re still here. Still showing up.
Still choosing life — even when it hurts.
“He who is faithful with little will be faithful with much.”
— Luke 16:10
Don’t wait for the perfect time to build discipline.
Start with a fish.
Start with Bobby.
Because caring for anything outside yourself is how we begin to care for ourselves again.
